Don’t Take Things Personally

Today I want to share an experience that led to a valuable lesson: not taking things personally. A few months back, I, unfortunately, had an eye infection. My eyes were dry, burning, and painful. I was having a hard time seeing due to blurred vision. Fortunately, I found an excellent ophthalmologist who prescribed the necessary medication—eye drops, a moisturizer, etc. Although she was highly competent at her job, she was blunt and abrupt with me in my appointment.

Initially, I left the clinic grateful for the treatment but slightly annoyed by her attitude. At the end of my visit, she mentioned that I needed an eye exam because the infection was affecting my vision. It wasn’t the information that bothered me, it was the way she delivered it that felt off-putting.

I shared my feelings with my husband as I prepared for a follow-up appointment. I expressed my discomfort with the doctor, but my next experience was entirely different. She was kind, reassuring, and congratulated me on my recovery. It was like she had turned into a different person altogether!

Reflecting on this experience, I realized the importance of not taking things personally. We can't control how others behave and their actions or words. We are POWERLESS over other people, places and things.The doctor might have had a bad day or some personal issues influencing her behavior during my first visit.

When we detach ourselves from the need for others to act in a certain way, we free ourselves from resentment and criticism. Living by the principle of not taking anything personally can lead to a more serene and happy life.

The takeaway from this experience is that people can change from one day to the next, and we may never fully understand their circumstances, nor can they fully understand ours. So, the next time someone says or does something that bothers you, ask yourself: What can I do to detach from their words or actions? How can I maintain my peace despite the challenges?

I encourage you to think outside the box and find ways to stay centered, even when others don't meet your expectations. What strategies can you use to remain calm and accepting in the face of unkindness?